Sheila’s Story, Part VII

This is one of a thirty part exposé on the Children of the Legion. This group of women, then girls, in the Regnum Christi, share their stories of abuse, neglect and the aftermath of being children in the Regnum Christi. For a complete list of stories to date, view Children of the Legion.


Remember Juanita, the consecrated woman who was always pestering me at sports? Well, she was also my housework supervisor. It was her job to come into the conference room, which I cleaned every day, and nag me to work faster. Since I took considerable pride in my work and knew I did a good job, it drove me crazy. One day, I just lost it. I was tired of humbly apologizing for not doing a better job when I WAS doing a good job, as I saw it. Seguir leyendo Sheila’s Story, Part VII

Sheila’s Story, Part VI

This is one of a thirty part exposé on the Children of the Legion. This group of women, then girls, in the Regnum Christi, share their stories of abuse, neglect and the aftermath of being children in the Regnum Christi. For a complete list of stories to date, view Children of the Legion.


I left you all on a cliffhanger at the end of Part V for quite a long time … sorry about that.

Changes were pretty frequent during those years. The school was still relatively new — I think less than ten years old — and we were still working out what the rules would be. So we would be called into the conference room and told, “Spiritual direction is now spiritual guidance,” or “Section I and Section II are now called ECYD Section and Regnum Christi Section,” or “Your ‘face-to-face’ is now your ‘PC Prospect.'” Seguir leyendo Sheila’s Story, Part VI

Sheila’s Story, Part V

This is one of a thirty part exposé on the Children of the Legion. This group of women, then girls, in the Regnum Christi, share their stories of abuse, neglect and the aftermath of being children in the Regnum Christi. For a complete list of stories to date, view Children of the Legion.


I ended Part IV in my spiritual director Sally’s office. (Her name is not really Sally.)

I tried to tell her about my giant conversion experience and how I was really committed to Regnum Christi now and that I was sure I had a vocation. She wasn’t really interested. She told me that it was way too soon to worry about whether or not I had a vocation.

Seguir leyendo Sheila’s Story, Part V

Sheila’s Story, Part IV

This is one of a thirty part exposé on the Children of the Legion. This group of women, then girls, in the Regnum Christi, share their stories of abuse, neglect and the aftermath of being children in the Regnum Christi. For a complete list of stories to date, view Children of the Legion.


Like I said at the end of Part III, the cognitive dissonance was beginning to get to me. I had a lot of little sneaky things I did, as I said before — from mentally composing fanfiction during “spiritual reading,” to coming up with objections in my head to everything I learned during apostolic methodology. But I started to feel tired of fighting.

It didn’t help that we were constantly hearing about “giving 100%,” “holding nothing back from God,” “being who we were meant to be,” and so forth. Seguir leyendo Sheila’s Story, Part IV

Sheila’s Story, Part III

This is one of a thirty part exposé on the Children of the Legion. This group of women, then girls, in the Regnum Christi, share their stories of abuse, neglect and the aftermath of being children in the Regnum Christi. For a complete list of stories to date, view Children of the Legion.


In the fall of 2000, I began my ninth grade year as a “precandidate” (“PC”). I understood perfectly that I was there to discern my vocation: it was like Junior Nuns or something. A lot of the other girls didn’t see it that way at all: it was just a place you go when you’re serious about your faith, and some people get consecrated at the end.

Right at the beginning of the year, we had an orientation for several days where we learned all the rules we hadn’t been told in the summer program. Seguir leyendo Sheila’s Story, Part III

Sheila’s Story, Part II

This is one of a thirty part exposé on the Children of the Legion. This group of women, then girls, in the Regnum Christi, share their stories of abuse, neglect and the aftermath of being children in the Regnum Christi. For a complete list of stories to date, view Children of the Legion.


I arrived in Rhode Island for the summer program and found it just as I’d expected it — like a much bigger version of the camps and retreats I’d enjoyed. Everyone was really nice, and the schedule was nonstop fun.

There was a little bump the first week where I didn’t think to call home and my mom kept calling me. But instead of getting me, they would give me these little phone messages that said she had called. I didn’t know what I was supposed to do about them so I did what I generally did about homework assignments I didn’t understand or instructions I couldn’t follow … kept quiet and hoped the problem would solve itself. Seguir leyendo Sheila’s Story, Part II

Sheila’s Story, Part I

This is one of a thirty part exposé on the Children of the Legion. This group of women, then girls, in the Regnum Christi, share their stories of abuse, neglect and the aftermath of being children in the Regnum Christi. For a complete list of stories to date, view Children of the Legion.


For years I have been blogging. For years I have studiously not talked about my experiences at boarding school. I’ve been afraid of criticism, mainly. Unfortunately there’s a lot of controversy surrounding the whole thing, so when I talk about my experiences, I’m sometimes accused of stirring up controversy. But for me, it’s never been a matter of controversy, it’s just my life.

It’s taken me years to come to a point where I can be even remotely objective about the whole thing. For a long time, I would brook no criticism, defend to the death even things I had disagreed with at the time. Seguir leyendo Sheila’s Story, Part I

Shannon’s Story

This is one of a thirty part exposé on the Children of the Legion. This group of women, then girls, in the Regnum Christi, share their stories of abuse, neglect and the aftermath of being children in the Regnum Christi. For a complete list of stories to date, view Children of the Legion.


I was home sick and depressed pretty much my whole (freshman) year as a PC, most especially after Thanksgiving, but I tried to hide it because I was supposed to be joyful and didn’t want to go against God’s will. There were times I was locking doors at night, and I would think, how hard can it be to run to the airport from here? But I didn’t have a way to get there, to get on a plane, to go home. I felt so trapped. 

I also remember times that I was woken up at night to lock the doors again, even though I already had.  Seguir leyendo Shannon’s Story

Sarita’s Story

This is one of a thirty part exposé on the Children of the Legion. This group of women, then girls, in the Regnum Christi, share their stories of abuse, neglect and the aftermath of being children in the Regnum Christi. For a complete list of stories to date, view Children of the Legion.


I’ve been trying to write down my testimony about my time at the Precandidacy for over a month. Each time that I’ve tried to write down my thoughts, I’ve gotten overwhelmed with the amount of complexity and emotion that I feel regarding those years (in fact this is my fourth attempt to write a coherent account of those 3 years of my life). The PC was a very complex and confusing time in my life and I have a very difficult time explaining it to people because there were so many levels of dysfunction that just sharing anecdotes could never fully explain the toxic environment we lived in. Seguir leyendo Sarita’s Story

Sarah’s Thoughts

This is one of a thirty part exposé on the Children of the Legion. This group of women, then girls, in the Regnum Christi, share their stories of abuse, neglect and the aftermath of being children in the Regnum Christi. For a complete list of stories to date, view Children of the Legion.


Schedule
The schedule was remarkably structured and left very little downtime. We have 5 and 10 minute free times sprinkled throughout the day, but it mostly just gave us enough time to get from one activity to another. As part of our Human Formation, we were also supposed to have a Free Time Program where we designated which free time we would clean our lockers, ask for permissions, try to write a letter home, etc. Seguir leyendo Sarah’s Thoughts

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